How to prepare your child for a new baby

Bringing a new baby into the family is an exciting time, but for an older sibling, it can also bring big emotions. Children may feel a mix of excitement, uncertainty, or even jealousy as they adjust to this major change. Helping them feel prepared and included can make all the difference in creating a smooth transition.

Here are some practical ways to support your child as they step into their new role as a big brother or sister.

Talk about the baby in a positive way

Start conversations about the baby early on, using positive and reassuring language. Explain how life might change and what to expect in a way that’s appropriate for their age. For younger children, simple explanations like, “Our baby will need lots of cuddles and naps, but you’ll be a great big helper,” can be enough. Older children may have more questions, so be open and honest while emphasising their important role in the family.

Involve them in preparations

Making your child feel part of the process can help build excitement and reduce feelings of being left out. Let them help choose baby clothes, set up the nursery, or pick out a toy for the baby. If they’re interested, show them scan pictures and let them feel the baby kicking. Giving them small responsibilities helps them feel included and valued.

Read books about new siblings

Books are a fantastic way to introduce the idea of becoming a big brother or sister. Look for stories that talk about what to expect, how to handle emotions, and the joys of having a sibling. Reading together provides a great opportunity to answer questions and reassure them that their feelings—whatever they may be—are completely normal.

Teach gentle interactions

If your child has never been around babies before, they may not know how to interact safely. Practise using gentle hands with a doll or soft toy, showing them how to stroke a baby’s head or hold their hand. Explain that babies cry to communicate and that it doesn’t mean they’re upset with their sibling. Giving them small but meaningful ways to help—like passing a nappy or singing a lullaby—can strengthen their bond from the start.

Set aside special time together

With a new baby in the house, routines will shift, and your child may feel a little left out. Plan short but meaningful one-on-one time each day, even if it’s just reading a book, going for a walk, or having a cuddle. Let them know they are just as loved and important as ever.

Be patient with their emotions

Your child may go through a range of emotions, from excitement to frustration. It’s natural. Acknowledge their feelings and reassure them that it’s okay to feel a bit unsure at times. Encourage them to talk about their emotions and let them know you are always there to listen.

By preparing your child in a loving and positive way, you can help them embrace their new role with confidence and excitement. The transition to siblinghood is a big step, but with the right support, it can be a truly wonderful experience for the whole family.

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